Random Musings of A Teenage Girl
Monday, January 23, 2017
College Decisions!
Senior year threw itself at me this fall with a fierce and fiery sense of responsibility attached. During this past semester, I found myself dealing with a lot; everything from turning in Beta Club hours to moving out of my parents' house.
I wrote an 18-page paper on an experiment I designed and executed myself, I was elected secretary of the Beta Club, I took 5 classes, and a multitude of other little things presented themselves to me along the way.
Among the biggest and arguably most important things I did during the first semester of my senior year was apply for college. I applied to three, and was fortunate enough to have three awesome schools to choose from when it was all said and done.
I applied to Lenoir-Rhyne University in Hickory, Western Carolina University in Cullowhee, and Wayne State University in Detroit, Michigan.
When I was accepted at Wayne State, I was glad, but I immediately discounted it. I did this not because it isn't a great school, but simply because I haven't really had the drive to attend college out of state. Between the tuition and the distance, I just haven't felt that option was really for me. (Not even for Detroit!)
Lenoir Rhyne was the school that everyone expected me to go to, and with good reason. As a little girl, I always told everyone that LR was where I wanted to go. for a long time, that was true. However, when I approached the time to decide on a college for real, rather than the pretend ideals of a child, I couldn't make myself say yes to Lenoir Rhyne. It's an amazing school and I have a lot of ties and history with it. However, I found that to be just the problem. I want a fresh start, as a lot of college students do. I feel like for me, Lenoir Rhyne just doesn't fit the way I always thought it would.
These decisions led to my ultimate choice for my next four years of education, which is Western Carolina University. Western is nestled in the mountains with beautiful weather and an equally beautiful campus. It's a little over two hours away, which is close but not too close, and it has some really incredible opportunities for me. I visited the campus in November and I really loved the feel of it, which I think is actually really important! I will have the opportunity to do some of my favorite things, like rock climbing and whitewater rafting, which I am very excited for. Right now, my major is listed as Psychology, but that is subject to change as I'm still figuring everything out.
I just wanted to put it out there, finally, that I made my decision, and I'm thrilled to be a Western Carolina Catamount!
Monday, August 15, 2016
Houston
Despite the fact that the National Youth Gathering that will
take place in Houston is still close to two years away, in the summer of 2018,
I find that the Gathering is on my mind a lot lately. You all most likely know
the kind of experience I had at National Youth Gathering last summer in
Detroit, and now I’m back with my thoughts for the participants of the
gathering that will happen in just a short two years. (Trust me, the time flies
by much faster than you think and will be filled with preparation!)
If I could give any piece of advice to youth traveling to
Houston, it would be to revel in every single second. Not just from the moment
you step on that bus or plane or settle into the seat of your car or van, but
now. Don’t put off getting excited until you get there, or even until it’s almost
time to leave. Get excited now. Take joy in every bit of preparation you and
your church are doing even now. Take pleasure in fundraising, and don’t lose
sight of the fact that you are doing all that work to give yourself and others
in your youth group the chance of a lifetime, to experience something you will
never, ever forget.
Secondly, the Gathering is fun. The big group events are
amazing, worship sessions and singing and the people you meet, all of it is
beyond exciting. But if you have the opportunity, dare to venture out. This is
going to be something you are always going to remember. Don’t waste that. Take
chances, do things you wouldn’t do at home, and see the city. That was among
the most enjoyable parts of the gathering for me, the chance to immerse myself
in the culture of Detroit. I would imagine that the same could be true for
Houston, if you take the opportunity to see it. Meet people, experience things,
and eat. Definitely eat. Food is among my best memories of National Youth
Gathering, because food brings people together. See the sports and the sights
and the people of the city you are serving.
That’s the other thing.
You are there to serve Houston. Houston is not there to
serve you. You are sent out in this city to do more than have fun (although
trust me, you will have fun.) You are send out to serve. To proclaim. To be the
image, the representation, of a much bigger picture than you or your church, or
your synod, even. You are the reflection of more than just the ELCA; you’re the
reflection of Christ, and that is an undeniably powerful tool that you can’t
take lightly! The people of Houston will feed off your energy. They will see
your example, and it will impact you more than you realize. I learned that when
30,000 teenagers flooded the city last summer, Detroit found us a little hard
to ignore. So be hard to ignore. Make friends and high-five strangers and talk
to people. Don’t hesitate to venture out of the bubble. It would be easy, I
think, to maintain a sort of wall between yourself and the city for most of the
week, but don’t. I promise you will get more out of this experience if you live
it, as intricately and deeply and with as much energy as you can.
I guarantee that Houston will change your life. You just
have to let it, and it starts now.
Saturday, August 13, 2016
Romance
Romance
1)
A feeling of excitement or mystery associated
with love
2)
A quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and
remoteness from everyday life
This definition of the word “romance” was
one I found when I googled the words “definition of romance”. It was a simple
act, googling the words. But what I learned from it, and the experiences that have
led up to me typing that phrase into a search engine in the first place, was
anything but simple.
I came to the realization recently that
sometimes, I hold people and things in my life to a standard that was set
incorrectly. Standards set by Nicholas Sparks novels and Disney movies and my
own imagination are out of the realm of reality. It’s never going to end well
if you expect someone to uphold those standards. To expect a man to be Noah
Calhoun (The Notebook) or Prince
Charming, is unfair not only to them, but also to yourself.
We are human beings. You and I, we’re
humans. We’re not Disney princesses, we’re not romanticized heroines who are
perfect. We are flawed and we have imperfections and we have characteristics
about ourselves that we don’t like.
Guess what?
The ones we fall in love with are human
beings, too. They are flawed and have imperfections and have characteristics
about themselves that they don’t like. They’re not Prince Charming, and they’re
not romanticized, perfect heroes. They, like you, are human beings.
I realized in the last couple of days that
I have been approaching the idea of romance in entirely the wrong way.
Expecting other people to uphold my standard of romance, or my standard of
anything, is like expecting them to be just like me. I wouldn’t want to date
myself, and my guess is that neither do you. When I put it like that in my
head, the concept was laughable.
Our differences make us the unique and beautiful
individuals that we are. I personally fell in love with someone who is
incredibly unique and sometimes overwhelmingly so. It’s something that I love
about him, but I realized that I was unconsciously combatting that quality in
him that I love so much, because I was expecting him to see romance the same
way that I do.
As it turns out, he doesn’t. And what I
realized is that I don’t really want him to. I thought I did, at first, but now
I see that if I got what I thought I wanted, I would be creating the most
boring relationship ever. The definition of romance that I found on Google
highlights the air of mystery that comes with romance. If everyone we ever
dated had the same idea of romance that we do, we would be eliminating all the
mystery from our relationships.
Like I said, boring.
So what I’ve learned through all of this is
that just because he doesn’t think the way you do, doesn’t mean it can’t be a
good thing. I have to learn to let go of some of my preconceptions and accept
some of the realities of the thing that is more beautiful than Disney movies:
real life.
And maybe when I let go of some of those
preconceptions, I’ll find that what fills the space is even better than I had
imagined in the first place.
Sunday, July 3, 2016
George
I’ve written and rewritten the post about my boyfriend about
ten thousand times, never seeming to be able to get the words right. I’m known
to have a way with words, but when it comes to George, I can’t ever seem to
land on exactly the right ones. Sometimes I wonder if the right words have even
been invented yet.
George and I started dating almost five months ago, on
Valentine’s Day. Before that, I have to admit I crushed on him, and come to
find out, he’s had a crush on me since freshman year. George is five-ten, with
hair that he says is dirty blonde, but so far, I’ve only seen brown, and hazel
eyes that I think are gorgeous but which he finds unremarkable. We’ve agreed to
disagree on that. He also has a beautiful smile and gives amazing hugs. Despite
the fact that I find George’s looks attractive, and always have, what I find
that I love most about George are the things that make him who he is.
I’ve always known George was intelligent, but what I didn’t
know until I got to know him well is that there’s more to it than that. His
mind works in an incredible way which is both creative and analytical. He
thinks in a manner unlike anyone I’ve ever met, and it keeps me on my toes,
which I love. Besides that, underneath the exterior he presents to the world,
George has the most beautiful spirit of anyone I’ve ever known. He’s kind and
gentle, with a fierce protective side that I adore. George loves deeply and
endlessly. He is a kind heart and a beautiful mind and a gentle spirit, and I
love all of those things about him.
If you had asked me three years ago when we first met if I
would be dating him now, I would never have dreamed of saying yes. The idea
would have seemed beyond the scope of reality. Now, five months into the best
relationship I’ve ever had, I don’t think it would be possible for me to be
happier. George and I have had our relationship put to the test, there’s no question
about that. But being with George is like being at home, like everything has
been lined up the way it was intended. He’s one of the most frustrating and
difficult people on the planet. He’s stubborn and when he gets an idea in his
head, that’s simply the way it is. He procrastinates and ends up doing
assignments that are due at 11:55 somewhere around 11:30, but has this
infuriating yet impressive way of making an A anyway.
But even as he spends
an hour refusing to reply with anything more than one-word answers, he still
manages to be one of the sweetest and most caring individuals I’ve ever known. The
first migraine I had after we started dating, he called and said absolutely
nothing for a while on the phone so that I could be in the quiet. When we had
to be apart for spring break, he wrote a letter to me (after discarding an
unknown number of drafts) so that I could read it through the week. He switched
my stuffed cat for his Star Wars BuildABear, and is never hesitant to
relinquish one of his shirts or jackets, even knowing he’ll run out of clothes
if he keeps giving them to me. He never hesitates to share things with me, even
food, which is impressive considering he loves food nearly as much as he loves
me. (Maybe more than me, but we don’t talk about that.) He’s the kind of person
who will do anything to make life better for the people they care about. I have
no doubt that he would lay down his life for me in an instant, with no hesitation.
George has brought countless blessings into my life, from
laughter to comfort to the simple joy of being with someone so incredible. I
always wondered what it would be like to be with the right person, how that
would feel and how I would know if it was right. Being with George has answered
those questions for me. Having him in my home, comfortable and finding joy in
things as simple as doing the dishes, or being in his home, where I found
myself just as comfortable, just being a part of each other’s lives, has
brought me a kind of contentment that I can’t even begin to express. Sharing in
happy and sad days has brought us closer and I’m grateful. I’m grateful for his
tolerance and strength, his protectiveness and his laughter, his ability to
turn my day around, to keep me calm, and to share in my struggles, to take up
the place beside me and make my issues his own, to take a stand with me
regardless of my reasoning, just because it means that much to me. I’m grateful
for the way he came into my life, his constant presence, and the comfort that I
get from knowing he’s always there. But most of all, I’m grateful for his love,
which is unconditional and endless.
If there was one thing I would want the world to know about
George, it would be that he is easily the most loving and gentle person I’ve
ever had the privilege of knowing. He’s more than what he puts out there for
the world to see, and the continuing process of uncovering the layers that make
him the person that he is has been, and continues to be, one of my greatest
joys. I am blessed to call him mine.
Genius, I’ll love you ‘till
the sun dies.
Wednesday, April 13, 2016
100 Favorite Words
I am a lover of language. It may have something to do with
the grueling grammar lessons I endured during my two years of homeschooling.
Those two years were difficult and taught me a lot. We did a lot of grammar and
sentence structure and The Scarlet Letter.
Perhaps that, in addition to my already established love of
books and creative writing, so what fueled me to where I am now. I adore
beautiful words, words that translate into thoughts that are deep and intense.
So I decided to make a list of my 100 favorite words.
1)
Eloquent: fluent and clearly expressive in
speech
2)
Exquisite: extremely beautiful and typically
delicate
3)
Ardent: enthusiastic or passionate
4)
Ecumenical: representing a number of different
Christian churches
5)
Intricate: very complicated or detailed
6)
Incandescence: light produced by high
temperature
7)
Ethereal: Extremely delicate light, not of this
world
8)
Demure: reserved and shy
9)
Celestial: supremely good
10)
Limerence: The feeling of being infatuated with
another person
11)
Delicate: very fine in texture or structure
12)
Ephemeral: Lasting for a very short time
13)
Flutter: quick, light movements
14)
Eidetic: Relating to or denoting mental images
having unusual vividness
15)
Flicker: make small, quick movements in light
16)
Enchanted: filled with great delight or charm
17)
Serendipity: The occurrence of events by chance
in a pleasant way
18)
Elysian: Beautiful or creative
19)
Languid: slow and relaxed
20)
Onism: the awareness of how little of the world
you will experience
21)
Kalopsia: The delusion of things being more
beautiful than they actually are
22)
Petrichor: the smell of earth after rain
23)
Vellichor: the strange wistfulness of used
bookstores
24)
Caim: Sanctuary, a circle of protection
25)
Amaranthine: undying, immortal, eternally
beautiful
26)
Querencia: a place from which one’s strength is
drawn
27)
Devastation: Great destruction or damage
28)
Liturgy: a form by which public religious
worship is conducted
29)
Virulent: bitterly hostile
30)
Alleviate: Make less severe
31)
Decadent: Luxuriously self-indulgent
32)
Delectable: Delicious
33)
Tsondoku: Letting books pile up on floors and
nightstands unread
34)
Emminent: used to emphasize the presence of a
positive quality
35)
Eunoia: Beautiful thinking
36)
Sparkling: shining brightly with light
37)
Eutony: the pleasantness of a word’s sound
38)
Illicit: not legal or permitted
39)
Sonorous: an impossibly deep or full sound
40)
Matryoshka: each a set of brightly painted
hollow wooden dolls of various sizes, designed to nest inside each other
41)
Epiphany: a moment of sudden revelation
42)
Expressive: effectively conveying a thought or
feeling
43)
Mystical: inspiring a sense of spiritual mystery
and fascination
44)
Flawless: Without any blemishes or
imperfections; perfect
45)
Embrace: hold someone closely in one’s arms
46)
Enthralled: capture the fascinated attention of
47)
Chrysalism: the amniotic tranquility of being
indoors during a storm
48)
Lullaby: a gentle, quiet song
49)
Tangible: perceived by touch
50)
Opia: the ambiguous intensity of looking someone
in the eye
51)
Acquiesce: submit or comply
52)
Felicity: pleasantness
53)
Lithe: slender and flexible
54)
Opulent: lush, luxurious
55)
Palimpsest: a manuscript written over earlier
ones
56)
Panacea: a solution for all problems
57)
Quintessential: Most essential
58)
Resplendence: dazzling in appearance
59)
Vespertine: relating to the evening
60)
Malevolence: wishing evil or harm to others
61)
Synedoche: simultaneous understanding
62)
Cadence: a modulation or inflection of the voice
63)
Wonder: a feeling or surprised admiration caused
by something inexplicably beautiful
64)
Entropy: lack of order or predictability
65)
Sans: without
66)
Wanderlust: a strong desire to travel
67)
Eschew: deliberately avoid using
68)
Dazzling: extremely bright
69)
Adore: Love and respect deeply
70)
Seduction: a tempting or attracting thing
71)
Exotic: Originating in characteristics of a
foreign place
72)
Lavishing: bestow something in generous or extravagant
quantities
73)
Gallant: brave or heroic
74)
Aura: distinct atmosphere or quality seeming to
surround someone
75)
Mystique: A fascinating air of mystery
76)
Recognizance: a bond someone takes to appear
when summoned
77)
Acumen: the ability to make good judgments and
quick decisions
78)
Breathtaking: astonishing or awe-inspiring
79)
Archaic: No longer in everyday use; of an early period
80)
Macabre: disturbing in its connection with death
and injury
81)
Intrinsic: Belonging naturally; essential
82)
Cadaveric: the adjective form of cadaver
83)
Charismatic: exercising a compelling charm that
inspires devotion in others
84)
Komorelu: sunlight filtering through trees
85)
Hiraeth: homesickness for a place you can no
longer return to
86)
Solitude: a state of seclusion
87)
Ineffable: too great to be expressed in words
88)
Meraki: to do with the soul
89)
Epoch: a particular period in history
90)
Melliflous: a sound that is smooth, sweet, and
pleasing
91)
Strepitous: boisterous, noisy
92)
Fragile: delicate, vulnerable
93)
Paraluman: a muse that inspires artistically
94)
Oblivion: the state of being unaware of what is
happening around you
95)
Redamancy: a love returned in full
96)
Denouement: the resolution of a narrative
97)
Supirianation: a frustration with
misinterpretation of your meaning
98)
Nyctophilia: a love of the night
99)
Metanoia: The journey of changing one’s mind,
heart, or self
100)
Gazpacho: a soup made pf raw vegetables with a
tomato base
Monday, November 23, 2015
Thankful
Expressing my love for the Thanksgiving/Christmas Season
First of all, I know it has been a really long time since my
last post. It’s insane to me that the last time I hit the little orange “publish”
button for this blog, the most viewed post had only a little over a hundred
pageviews. When I think back on that crazy week of my summer, I am still
overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and recognition I received for my letter
to Detroit.
That said, I’m back! Junior year swept me off my feet with
all the work and extracurricular that appeared from the very first day of
school onward. Now, as the first semester begins to wind down and my teachers
are panicking and talking about exams, I am finding myself very reflective, and
with Thanksgiving approaching fast, I have so much to be thankful for.
In October of 2014, an electrical fire broke out at my
house. I never knew how devastating something like that could be. I like to
think myself a spiritually grounded person, and I think most of the time, I am. But as a sixteen-year-old girl growing
up in lower middle-class, 21st-century America, I can be pretty
materialistic. Losing nearly all of my clothes and most of my possessions while
trying to navigate my sophomore year of high school was not easy. Life at home
became increasingly difficult, because tensions ran really high. Moving is
stressful when you are prepared for it. Imagine having to pack up a house that
is smoke-damaged, waterlogged, and half ruined, all in a weekend. Having to
sort through and clean everything, on top of buying new things and handling the
many generous donations we got, on top of moving into a too-small-for-us home…well,
overwhelming is an understatement.
That was just over a year ago now, and earlier this month,
we finally got to go home. I am so joyful to be back in our house. The house
that I call home may not look like much, but it was my safe haven when I needed
that more than anything else in my life. It represents a stability that I am so
grateful to have. There are still boxes everywhere, and we aren’t nearly as
organized as we would like to be, but we’re getting there. The house is
starting to feel like ours, more than it did even before the fire. I think an
experience like that is such a teachable moment. Being back home, I take so
much more ownership and pride than I did before. I can’t take it for granted
anymore, because I know what it’s like not to have that. I never appreciated
our 1,200 square feet more than I do now.
The holidays have always held such significance for me. I am
one of those people who absolutely adores Christmas. It arrives 23 days after
my birthday each year, so the month of December is always a joyful time for me.
When I was younger, we would spend Thanksgiving with my Maw-Maw, and holidays
without her are always hard. But as I prepare for Thanksgiving this week, which
we are spending in our home, I am beyond grateful. I love holiday preparation;
the food, the decorations, the music. Thanksgiving afternoon was always spent
decorating my Maw-Maw’s Christmas tree, and I love that tradition. It’s things
like that, in my opinion, that make the holiday season so special. There’s
endless nostalgia surrounding Christmastime, and I relish those sorts of
things.
So this week, we are working through the boxes to make
shopping lists, and organizing cabinets to house groceries. We’re making room
for Christmas decoration, solely for the tradition of it (my family and I aren’t
even staying in town for Christmas this year), and I’m setting the Macy’s
Thanksgiving Day Parade to record on the DVR because for my dad to miss the
football game would be treason in the Mattheis house, and we can’t have that.
On Thursday, I will be making a pie from a recipe that I have never needed to
write down, because my Maw-Maw taught it to me when I was so little that I had
to sit on the counter. This coming weekend, I will get to hang all my ornaments
on the tree, and hang my stocking, and put the jingle bell collars on my dogs.
We’ll put out red candles and change the scent in our wax warmer to something
more Christmas-y. Soon, I’ll get to start wrapping Christmas presents, and we’ll
make Christmas treats and I’ll wear my candy-cane earrings.
All of that is happening, and this week, I am so much more
thankful for what I have than I can recall ever being. I am truly blessed,
despite my struggles, and because of them. So I take this opportunity to wish
you and yours a very happy and blessed Thanksgiving.
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
A Letter To Detroit From A National Youth Gathering Participant
Dear Detroit,
My name is Cassie and I'm from a small town in North Carolina, where our largest building is Wal-Mart. I have always wanted to experience life in a big city, and you did not disappoint, but rather exceeded my expectations. You see, I was expecting a city filled with broken dreams and shattered glass, a city devoid of life and hope. I expected a scene of desolation against the backdrop of a dead city.
But you are not dead. You are so very much alive. You destroyed all of my preconceptions the minute I set foot on your gorgeous riverwalk and was exposed to the cultural diversity and breathtaking views you offered me. I saw the opposite of what I expected; I saw bike riders and people reading books and children playing in the fountain. I saw so much life, even after mere minutes of being there. And that first night, my group ventured into Greektown, and Monroe became my favorite street in all of a minute. It was still daylight out, but the criss-crossing lights that hung above the street had me hooked at first glance. I was entertained and enamored by your people, your mannerisms, and your atmosphere. (Not to mention the food, which is absolutely delectable).
Over the week, I saw your bad side. (the area around 8-mile road was pretty sketchy). I saw your homeless, your penniless, your dirty and your somewhat terrifying drunk Tigers fans. I saw your houses adorned with neon yellow signs that read, "Will Demolish". But I also saw your beauty. I saw your culture. I saw your parks. I saw your police; on boats, cars, horses, and bicycles. I saw your sports. I saw your riverwalk. I heard your music. I saw your street drummers and the guy playing the trumpet in Greektown. I saw your public buses, your taxis, your people mover. I saw your graffiti and your mosaics. I saw your alleys and your crosswalks. I saw Astoria Pastry Shop every single night I was there. I saw your stunning architecture and I ate your food. We rapped with a car full of your people as they drove beside us on our walk back to our hotel one night. I saw one of your artists sketching on a street corner and my dad bought me a rose from one of your people selling flowers on Monroe. I saw your Times Square and your Broadway. I heard your concerts and experienced your weather. I felt your rain, your breezes, and your sunshine. I sang in your streets and weeded your flowerbeds. I talked to your citizens. I heard your spoken word and the testimony of those who belong to you. I served and worshipped and learned and laughed in your city. And I fell in love with it.
I saw your life. I saw your hope and your future, but I also saw your present and it is so far from dead. I want to bring every single person who said to me, "Detroit? Why are you going there? So you can get shot?" and I want to show them the Detroit I got to see because there are a million reasons to see everything you showed me.
I came to see your for the first time as one in 30,000 teenagers. We all blended together for you, I'm sure,with our brightly colored tee-shirts, inordinate amounts of cheerfulness, backpacks and water bottles, not to mention the fact that we all seemed to know each other. You may have tired of our endless happiness, constant singing, or our multitude of high-fives and clothespins. Perhaps by the end of the week, you were ready to back to being "too-cool-for-you hipster" and leave the Disneyland vibe behind. You may have been ready to have your streets back at night, and not packed with teens singing the National Anthem for no reason at all. I'm sure your restaurants were ready to return to normal dinner crowds instead of being overcrowded by people clad in neon orange.
But I want to say thank you. Thank you a million times for putting up with the ELCA Youth Gathering 2015, because it wouldn't have been the same without you. Thank you for proving me wrong, and for showing me just how alive and vibrant and wonderful you really are.
I love you, Detroit.
Until Next Time,
Cassie
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